I have never felt particularly exoticized as a type before.
Even when I first started dating my Brazilian boyfriend, he would always tell me how much he missed me when I was gone.
He would rave about how beautiful he found me to be, send me romantic song lyrics and just weeks after we started dating, he told me he loved me.
There is no word for this in Portuguese because this type of behavior happens constantly; it's expected.
Furthermore, being “carinhoso” (affectionate) is integral to Brazilian relationships and the lack of “carinho” (affection) in many American relationships is probably one reason why Brazilians have labeled Americans as “cold.”From the start, my Brazilian boyfriend was super “carinhoso” with me, regardless of whether we were alone or in front of his friends and family.
So, American guys, listen up: While the Brazilian society is far from perfect, there are definitely a few things that you could all stand to learn from your South American counterparts when it comes to wooing a girl. One thing I love about Brazilian guys is that they don’t beat around the bush.
Irresistible lure aside, after spending nine months in Brazil, I came to really appreciate certain facets of romance and dating there that tend to be lackluster stateside.Not that I encourage couples to make out for hours in front of me on the subway, but since when did it become a crime to kiss your partner or be publically in love?I find it interesting that in the US, we have a term for publicly showing affection (“PDA”).Perhaps that's why they are less drawn to my honey.I talked to my friend Marcello about the Brazilian penchant for passionate, urgent overtures--he explained that when Brazilian men feel something, and they want to express it, even if the depth of their feeling seems kind of bizarre. There's so much that I like about Brazilian men in general: they're generous--always quick to pour beer first for everyone else at the table; helpful to a fault; fun; optimistic; funny.It turns out that every foreign woman is gorgeous in Brazil. It was only slight a letdown, to find out that every other female traveler I talked to was having a similar experience: being told that she was linda, linda, linda.