There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.
Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.
" (No, that wasn't a suggestion for you to set up an arranged marriage.) For the Hebrews and the early church, dating wasn't an issue to be addressed in Scripture. When the Bible was written, a person basically had one of three options: remaining single, an amoral life with multiple partners or prostitutes, or an arranged marriage.
There were courtship rituals in place, but nothing that looks like what we consider dating today.
Rely on God's love, wisdom, and sustaining presence while you're dating.
Though God won't do all the work for you, he'll be with you every step of the way.
Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.
But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.
God may, in fact, have a spunky brunette in mind, and he's steering you toward her as you read this.
But the Bible does not promise that God will provide a loving relationship for you while you sit around and do nothing.
Before that, the couple has to take the initiative.