It was no longer just about physical purity, it was also about what I’ve sometimes seem called “love virginity.” The stakes were raised.
Dating around became akin to sleeping around, and both were seen as practice for divorce, which of course was bad, bad, I am of course curious why the book is still being sold, and without any caveat.
Joshua Harris @Harris Josh @elizabethesther I’m sorry.
And I’m planning to dig into that in the next year or two. for the first time when I was 14 years old, and immediately commenced shaming myself for my schoolgirl crushes.
The way Harris chose to respond was, of course, all him.
I so appreciate the complete lack of defensiveness, and the simple sympathy shown instead.
Every maneuver, from turning down the cereal aisle to gliding alongside the meat section, becomes a battle-the shoppers will pitted against the carts.
Why am I talking to you about shopping carts when this book is about dating?
Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.
The pastor telling the story saw both of them years later at a high school reunion. When I see him, I remember it all so vividly, Jenny cried. When I see her, the hurt comes back, he told his former youth pastor. When the youth minister had finished telling this story, you could have heard a pin drop. But he gave no alternative that afternoon, Evidently the pastor thought the couple's only mistake was giving in to temptation.
I’d heard rumors that Harris has become critical of the ideas he wrote in his book, though I had not seen these rumors directly confirmed.
Then this morning I came upon this exchange on twitter: Here’s the full text: Elizabeth Esther @elizabethesther I never went to prom.
He seemed to think that Eric and Jenny should have had more respect for each other and more self-control.