It is clear this will be not only embarassing but I will also be reporting to my ex.I am not in a position to find another job at present.
These jobs usually open for school terms so I have to stay put for few months.
But more importantly, I am happy and settled here so do not want to move.
I am not a big fan of social media and had no idea what she had been up to since the unpleasant situation a long time ago.
I have no idea what to do and how to deal with this mess.
I appreciate the trouble you are taking with getting back to me. If you had ghosted her after a month of dating, it would have been rude but potentially salvageable.
A month of dating more than a decade ago isn’t likely to loom very large for most people, emotionally.
We were together for three years and lived together for two of those years.
I know that ghosting is not a way to end the relationship but I cannot do much about it now.
And ghosting after a short amount of time dating shouldn’t generally be devastating. But you were together for three years, and you lived together! That’s some serious emotional destruction that you inflicted there.