As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.
Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.
Dating and mating for the woman over 50
However, I am also someone who enjoys dating and believes it's possible to date genuinely care about someone without falling madly in love with them.
In other words, Tinder is perfect for someone like me. There is an ego boost to swiping right on someone you find attractive, and learning that they find you attractive as well.
In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a "hook-up" app for romance. After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends.
Although my ex-husband and I co-parent our now 12-year old son, my son spends 75% of his time at my home.
One man went from asking me about spelunking to suggesting we would make beautiful babies.
Needless to say, it was an abrupt shift in our conversation. They sit in my matches folder like unexplored potential. Maybe we'd have great chemistry – if only one of us made the next move. I'm usually called away by mothering, chores, and paid work.I'm not sure if it's because older women are seen as more interesting or self-assured, or (as I suspect) because men watch too many X-rated films centered on the younger man/older woman trope. Another downside is that when I match with someone, we are freed from face-to-face communication, which isn't always good.Many men act in ways I imagine they would if they were sitting across from me over dinner.Then we looked for a place to continue the conversation, gave up, and he brought me home, walked me to the door and gave me a goodnight kiss.He had a wonderful combination of piercing and wide-ranging intelligence, a sense of humor, and a good job –he played guitar in a metal band.I didn't and we dated for a few more months but parted ways once we determined we wanted different things from a relationship. We matched on Tinder and he immediately asked me to dinner.