Then, of course, you find out the truth: They were in a meeting. If their response time goes from a few minutes to two days, yeah, something has changed — most likely feelings. Don’t jump to conclusions until you get all the information.
Most likely, you’re pulling from your own insecurities or comparing this person’s response time to others from your past.
You see, I’m a talker, and when there’s an issue, I want to talk about it — immediately. And if you don’t want to talk about it, I feel like you don’t care, or that it’s not important to you.
But through my relationships, I’ve learned that many people are not wired like me. Just find out what the real reason is, and don’t make a big deal out of it if it’s not a big deal.
Be patient: The truth will eventually float to the top.
I have a friend who will engage in lightning-speed text banter for hours, then suddenly go dark and completely ignore a question I asked for days.
We’ve all exhibited behavior that wasn’t justified.
Dating and relationships are hard enough, even with great communication. Trust becomes difficult to produce and keeps healthy and lasting love at a distance.
Or maybe kissing on the first date just isn’t an option for them; maybe they don’t kiss someone until the third or fourth date.
So then it’s more about their patterns and comfort level than it is about you.
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When you add to the mix texts, social media, dating apps, and emails, there is even more room to miscommunicate.