By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
My buddy thinks you’re real and now we have a bet going. ” — Kristin, 26 The problem..the solution: Aside from the fact that this is a pathetic pickup line, it’s certainly never going to work. [pagebreak] DUMPED AND IN DENIALThe scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him.
”I don’t know, but I sure wished there was another way. No need to be in a big, fat hurry DO take the time to assess the other person’s character. So don’t convince yourself that you know it all and understand everything.
Getting involved in a relationship – and deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with – is a HUGE deal. No one has it all together, so why not embrace the fact that you’ll probably need to learn a thing or two in the process?
Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it.
By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.
GAMBLERThe scenario: “I got a message that said ‘Obviously you’re cute, but I’m just having trouble believing that this is actually you because you seem too good to be true.
That’s what I told our family friend who was concerned that I wasn’t dating at the age of 26. It’s just that I found the whole dating scene rather depressing.
So one solution to this dilemma is to avoid the subject altogether and remain single.
Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.