If yogis have been repeating Sanksrit words for centuries surely the average woman can change a couple negative words around every now and then. Instead of using phrases like “no, but” try to replace your wording and thoughts with “yes, and…” Even if the negative mantra is only in your head, “I’m too old to find a man,” or “I’m too fat, if I lost 10 lbs.
someone would want me,” with supportive, loving statements.
When you train your brain to be biased towards seeing a particular outcome that will become your reality.
Therefore, the first step is to begin retraining the brain to see something different.
Rather than seeing it as a burden to make changes, what if you saw it as an exciting opportunity to experience life in a new way?
I once had a very successful female client who made over $400,000 a year.
However, the reality is that to incorporate another person into your life it is unrealistic to expect everything to remain exactly the same.
You have lived 40 years of your life a certain way.It will feel awkward at first – like trying to drive on the other side of the road in another country or like writing with your non-dominant hand.That is all part of the process of becoming aware and mindful of your thoughts.Google maps forever changed how we get where we want to go. Facebook forever changed how we communicate with loved ones.Yet when it comes to dating, the expectation is that everything should remain the same as it did in the caveman era.Now, when we start getting into geographic restrictions, religious and political preferences and down right attractiveness, you can see how this pool of eligible bachelors suddenly becomes very small.