By encouraging people to tell stories about themselves, you not only learn about their history but also about them from the way they talk about their lives.
These questions are designed to spark the imagination of the person and drift off into speculation.
You could each write down questions on scraps of paper--serious and fun so the mood doesn't get too heavy - and throw them into jars (yours in one, his in another).
Take turns fishing out questions and answering them.
Either way, it’s exciting to be able to get to know another human being and get a peek into his or her world.
Great communication starts with being genuinely interested in the individual you’re with and paying close attention to what he/she says.
Rationale: Does s/he have any big plans for dramatic life changes you don’t know about? Rationale: Is the person excessively dependent, needy, or incompetent, or does s/he perceive themselves that way? Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert ACT with Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Note: Of course there are other important dating questions related to finances, children etc but I wanted to make a list of psychology-related dating questions.
Rationale: Does s/he have grit (which is important for success)? Is s/he going to be good at repairing your bond after you’ve had an argument? Do you know when you’re feeling hurt, lonely, sad, ashamed/embarrassed etc?Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy. In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not. There aren't really any right or wrong answers; again, the way these questions are answered tell you more about a person than the answers themselves.You don't want your date to feel like an interrogation or a job interview, so you'll have to take special precautions to make the question and answer process more bearable.Unless you've both decided to have a formal session of getting to know each other by asking any questions that have been on your mind, keep things low-key.