I'm not sure if it's because older women are seen as more interesting or self-assured, or (as I suspect) because men watch too many X-rated films centered on the younger man/older woman trope. Another downside is that when I match with someone, we are freed from face-to-face communication, which isn't always good.
Many men act in ways I imagine they would if they were sitting across from me over dinner.
As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.
Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.
Then we looked for a place to continue the conversation, gave up, and he brought me home, walked me to the door and gave me a goodnight kiss.
He had a wonderful combination of piercing and wide-ranging intelligence, a sense of humor, and a good job –he played guitar in a metal band.
One man went from asking me about spelunking to suggesting we would make beautiful babies.
Needless to say, it was an abrupt shift in our conversation. They sit in my matches folder like unexplored potential. Maybe we'd have great chemistry – if only one of us made the next move. I'm usually called away by mothering, chores, and paid work.
I drank coffee, he drank green tea, and we talked for hours about politics and change.
When he told me that he read women writers because he couldn't relate to them, I should have fled then and there.
On the flip side, many of the men are there for hook-ups.
For every man seeking dating or romance on Tinder, there are probably 10 others seeking to hook-up, or to become friends with benefits.
Tinder's strength is that it easily tells you when there is a mutual attraction. For me, the benefits of using a dating app far outweigh its drawbacks.